By Tamara Hughes
Just days ago, I saw the movie Yes Man. If you haven’t seen it, the story is
about a man who attends a seminar that convinces him he should say yes to every offer that comes his way. With Jim Carrey as the star, we’re led through some pretty wacky offers that he says Yes to. From what I understand, the movie concept is based on a book by a real man who decided to say yes to everything for a year and wrote about it. The idea made for a silly movie, but got me thinking.
For many of us, our lives are crowded with activities. Each day we can barely catch our breaths from the pressures and deadlines we have on our shoulders. And yet, even with all those activities filling up our lives, how often do we hear or even feel that we never get to do what we want to do? We say no to many opportunities because, well, we don’t have time. In essence, like in the movie, our lives are so busy, we don’t live life, we just exist. Okay this is a pretty depressing viewpoint, and a little dramatic, but stick with me here.
When I saw the scene in the movie where the Yes Man guru is determined to convince Jim Carrey (Carl) to join the world of Yes, I was reminded of a course I took
- The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Stephen Covey (the creator of this concept) actually even looks like the guru in the movie. Coincidence? I think not.
Anyway, there’s a habit in this course (#3 Put First Things First) that encourages you to categorize those activities that take up your time.
There are those things that are:
- important and urgent – when the cat scoots his butt across the floor
signifying a glandular problem, you may want to get on that one right away - important and not urgent – preparing for coming events, planning, working toward goals
- not important and urgent – for me this includes telephone calls (must answer phone…stop ringing!), paying bills (yes, you need to do it, but is it really important to your goals in life?), some email
- not important and not urgent – time wasters – TV, surfing the web, watching YouTube, most email
As you can see above, the most valuable time spent would be on important things that are not urgent. Of course the key here is that you need to decide what is really important and what’s not. We need to prioritize how important exercise is to us, our hobbies, that dream to be an Olympic gymnast, and then try to find ways to focus as much of our time as possible on those items.
For writers that means finding a way to make writing a priority in our lives, for readers it’s reading. In fact, there was a time when I used my valuable reading time to study for a class I was taking. After a few weeks, I found I was grumpy and downright unhappy. I forgot the importance of giving myself time to escape in a novel. I missed it, and it showed.
So when cleaning out the dust bunnies comes up in my life, well what can I say. I’m trying to prioritize, and I’ve become quite fond of bunnies.
What do you think? Are you prioritizing your life?
Have a great day!
Tami


No, that’s not it either. While it annoys me that Pride and Prejudice suddenly has zombies terrorizing the town, what gets me is witnessing legal plagiarism at work. I realize that Jane Austen’s copyright has expired, making it perfectly legal for Seth Grahame-Smith to take her book verbatim and add his own subplot.
ideas…And indeed, some themes have been recycled more than their fair share. After all how many times have you read romance novels about mail order brides, forced marriages, women dressing as men, amnesia, pirates…need I say more. Yet, who can go wrong with a pirate? I don’t think I’ll ever grow tired of them.
But are there really no new ideas out there? I suppose when you think about it, even paranormal romances, which only came onto the market a handful of years ago, could be considered a carryover from Dracula. Although who knew Dracula was such a handsome, tortured soul? Still, these types of stories were new to the romance shelves.
Four years ago, after considerable thought about the explosion of paranormal books, I gave a one a try, and became hooked. Now I find myself reading lots of paranormals and urban fantasies. Sadly, it seems I’m fairly slow on the draw when it comes to trying new types of romance.
Typical of me, I missed the big wave of praise as each book in the Twilight series came out. It wasn’t until I heard about the movie that I became aware of the phenomenon. I saw the movie, liked it, and decided to give the book a try. I wanted to see if the magic on the screen also existed on the page. Alas, with the American Title competition and everything else, I only picked up the first book in the series last Monday. And, well, wow.



While I respect an author’s choice to close the door, I prefer to be included. Of course, then we could consider just how hot a love scene can be (cozy, spicy, or red hot). I’ve read all three levels, and I admit I’m more of a spicy girl, both in what I read and in what I write.
So my question of the day. What inspiration, what drive, gets our butts into those chairs when we’d rather be doing something else (like sleeping, or snuggling with the hubby)? And once we’re in that seat, what keeps us inspired and on task?

